Have you ever been around people who have conversations almost entirely about past events. You sit and listen and if you spend enough time with them you will hear the same stories repeated over and over.
Sometimes the past events can be funny or sweet but a lot of the stories may be dredging up old wounds and hurts.
Living in the past is not only a drain on energy for all persons listening but also for the person speaking of the past.
Let me clearly differentiate between bringing up a past event every once in a while to actually 'living in the past'.
When we are in the past energy we are not living NOW and we are not creating our reality from NOW. Being stuck in the past old energy and living the same emotions and feeling it dredges up to repeat the same old record or pattern in the groove.
If you are wanting to grow and move forward in your life just take a look at what you are speaking of on a constant basis. That is a good indicator of where you are living.
Remember that thoughts are things and so even if you don't speak out loud and are still thinking about the past - you are not free from it and you can not create from a clear platform BRINGING IN your New Present and New Future.
If a couple has been together 20 years, they obviously have many years of history together. If they have not cleared old energy as they have gone along they may have built up hurts and carry old issues that burden them and their happiness together.
This is easy to say and sometimes hard to actually put into action but each party needs to hit the 'stop play' button on the record to consciously choose a new Present and Future. Why is this so hard to do? It is difficult because we don't always want to readily LET GO of our hurts because it is our story we want to 'tell' others. We have held that as our identity for a long time. We can somehow feel validated when we tell these stories over and over. But still we are not happy because we are living in the pain and hurt.
I know, I know - I hear you saying but he did this and she did that which seems like an immeasurable gap of pain and being slighted, etc. But hear me now when I say it is not working for you to hold on to the stories. How long do you want to live with that identity?
You are saying --NO because he did this and she did that and it needs to be rectified first. Well, it hasn't worked - has it?
CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE - CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
You've got to let go of the past NOW. All else will follow.
I know you've invested so much time and energy into the past story but really it has not done anything but make you miserable. Right, wrong, good, bad - just forget about it.
The earth plane doesn't work that way. YOU GET TO BE RIGHT. If you are constantly in the past pain and hurt and that is your PERSPECTIVE. YOU GET TO BE RIGHT.
BUT - CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE - CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
You think the other party is getting away with something because you are letting go of the past. THIS IS FOR YOU. THIS IS FOR YOUR HAPPINESS.
IT MAY TAKE A LITTLE TIME BUT JUST EXPERIMENT WITH IT AND SEE HOW MANY THINGS IN YOUR LIFE CHANGE FOR THE BETTER WHEN YOU LIVE IN THE NOW.
REMEMBER TO FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. If something comes up to stir up the past inside of you - before you get 'emotionally activated' and begin your story - just pause and act as if all is well and all is in harmony. Use energy clearing techniques. Even if you are stirred up inside - let it go. This is the old pattern trying to drag you in once again. Just stay in conscious control of the moment because you are making new moments - NOW MOMENTS. THIS IS FOR YOU AND YOUR HAPPINESS AND SPIRITUAL GROWTH. MOVE AHEAD TEN STEPS ON THE EARTH GAME BOARD!